You cannot please everyone; even if you do, some people can still hate you
for no reason. Yes, someone can simply hate your personality.
No matter how good or how bad you think you are, there must be someone who
hates your manners. Most hatred result from previous offenses. However, you may not
necessarily need to offend people for them to hate you.
One of the social challenges you may face while interacting with others is
that some haters do not expose their true identities. They come as friends,
colleagues, or close relatives.
It is dangerous if you cannot detect that someone hates you. The essence of
knowing your haters is not to hate them back. It is not good for you to hate
hatred comes with consequences
Why You Should Know Your Haters
It is important you know who hates you for the following reasons:
1. Knowing your haters can help reconciliation process:
Some people you offend are not open enough to express how much your
action hurts them. They may end up keeping malice against you.
Realizing that someone hates you because of your fault or offense can
help you consider how to reconcile with them.
2. Knowing your haters enhances your safety and security:
Haters can be dangerous, at times. Once you know that someone hates
you and can harm you, it will be easy for you to play safe and
associate carefully around them. This can save you from attack or
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3. It helps you to make some amendments:
Knowing if someone hates you will help you to make some corrections.
You will not like to keep sharing your secrets with a close partner,
associate, or friend, who is a secret enemy.
4. Knowing your enemies clears doubt:
You may be wondering who leaked your secret, who betrayed you, or why
things are not going as you expect. You may wonder why the person is
behaving strange to you. Once you can confirm that the person hates you,
there will be no more room for doubt.
5. Being able to identify your haters is an eye opener:
It is not proper for you to go to places that your haters meet. Once
you can tell who hates you, you will know who and where to avoid. This
can keep you safe from danger and betrayal.
Here are 10 Signs and How to Know that Someone Hates You
1. Red light in body language:
Body language entails nonverbal communication which may involve
facial expression, attitude, or body movement. You can know when
someone hates you if his/her attitude towards you is bad.
If someone who is nice to others always maltreat you, it is a sign
that the person dislikes you. Your haters will not treat you kind.
They will scold, frown at you or act strange around you.
Some body language signals may include but not limited to nagging,
distancing, inattentiveness, frowning, muttering, among others. Once
you receive those negative body languages from someone, it could mean
that the person hates you.
Someone that hates will always condemn everything you do. If a
friend, relative, or colleague always condemn everything about you, do
not ignore it. It is normal for people to dislike some aspects of you
because you cannot always be right but haters dislike everything about
Haters would condemn your dressing, your behaviors, your voice, and
your walking steps. Meanwhile, you should be able to differentiate
condemnation from correction and advice. Condemnation here means that
the individual condemns even your good works and good manners.
3. Lack of appreciation and ungratefulness:
Ungratefulness, sometimes, is a sign that someone hates you. Even an
ungrateful person appreciates someone he/she loves. Those who love you
would always appreciate you when you show them a little act of
An enemy cannot appreciate your sacrifice, even if you choose to
sacrifice your life.
If a loved one begins to be ungrateful to everything you offer to
him/her, it means he/she does no longer love you. Constant lack of
appreciation is a sign of hatred.
4. Inconveniences in eyes contact:
Eye contact can tell if someone likes or hates you. Most times,
people who hate will avoid having direct eye contact with you. If you
are very close to someone, then realize that he/she suddenly avoids
having direct eye contact with you, something is wrong. You can
suggest someone’s emotion by looking directly into their eyes. For
this, many haters do not allow direct eye contact.
Prolonged glaring can be a sign that someone hates you. Some haters
would stare at you with rage and bitterness. You have to know if their
eyes communicate love and admiration or disgust and bitterness.
5. Opposing opinion:
Someone who hates will always stand at the opposite end of your
opinion and suggestion. This does not mean that a friend should always
say “yes” to whatever you do.
“I like friends who have independent minds because they tend to
make you see problems from all angles.”-
A good friend must oppose your view when you are wrong. Nevertheless,
if someone always opposes your opinion and suggestion even when every
other person accepts that you are right, it can be a sign that the
person hates you. Before you reach this conclusion, think about why
the person is against you and how often he/she opposes you.
Constant opposition is a sign of hatred. Friends are partners, not
opponents. People oppose each other because they share a different
belief, or they simply dislike each other or their ideas. Friends are
supposed to be people of like-minds.
6. Backbiting and blackmail:
Backbiting is a sign of hatred. Anyone can say something behind you,
even friends. Of course, no one is perfect. Those who love you would
always say good things about you, even in your absence. Only haters
try all means to blackmail and condemn you.
Back-biting, evil gossip, and lies are signs associated with hatred.
Anyone who uses those tools as weapons against you dislikes you.
It is hard to know when people say bad behind you, but if you are
lucky to realize that they do, then you are ahead. Meanwhile, you need
to scrutinize every report that is hearsay before believing it.
7. Constant Exploitation:
Someone who likes you cannot take advantage of you. If someone
constantly exploits you and uses you as a fool, there is no love in
that person; he/she is only pretending to love you. This happens so
often in relationships and marriages when love turns sour.
Exploitation is a sign of hate. Your enemy isn't concerned about your
pain; they want you to always lose. They will take advantage of you
and abandon you in the end.
Some haters will say it to your face that they hate you, and it is
the simplest means to clear your doubt. “I hate you” can be used as an
irony to “I love you”. It all depends on who says it, when, where, and
how it is said. But do not take some statements for granted. It can be
9. Physical Abuse:
Anyone who constantly abuses you physically dislikes you. Physical
abuse is a sign that someone hates you. Someone who loves you would
treat you kindly.
Do not endure constant abuse for love. A friend cannot attack, injure
or kill you, only those who hate you can harm you.
10. Social and cultural background:
If someone treats you harshly, and you are doubting if it is a sign
of hatred, you can go back in time to find the answer. Where are you
from, where is the person from, and had there been any historic
irregularities between you?
Some tribes and religions already lay the foundation of hatred in our
society. You would hear people saying, “I don’t like people from X
tribe or religion”. If you observe all the above signs of hatred in
someone, then knowing their social, cultural, or religious background
can clear your doubt.
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Racism, religious hatred, ethnophobia, anti-Semitism among others can
make people to hate each other. That people can hate for no reason
does not mean that they just hate. There might be a reason that is
unknown to you.
You cannot live without someone hating you. Although it is not
necessary to know all your haters, you must know your relationship
with the surrounding person. It is for your safety and a better social
life. However, it is essential to spend most of your time in
cultivating love than to search for an enemy. You must
learn to avoid hating others
irrespective of how much they hate you.