What does it mean to be a mother?A mother is the female parent of a child or a woman who gives birth to children in the family. While this is the traditional definition of the word "mother", a mother can also mean a woman who takes parental responsibilities of a child whether such child is biologically hers, adopted or from someone else.
Just like a father, one can become a mother through different means either by giving birth to a child, through adoption or just taking on basic civic roles and responsibilities in a child’s life. Despite this fact, one condition to qualify as a mother is to be a woman. This makes motherhood the pride of most women.
What it takes to be a true motherWe are used to the “sweet mother” phrase but whatever that phrase means is bound to the roles and responsibilities that are involved in being a mother. Without such obligations, then the concept of being a mother would be questionable.
Motherhood and Family Roles/ResponsibilitiesThe society is shifting towards an era whereby family responsibilities are debated and family members no more acknowledge their roles.
This article is not limiting family members (parents) from helping one another or carrying out each other’s tasks when one is absent, it is only for awareness and as a resource to help guide and build a happy family life.
Why You Should Know Your Roles and Responsibilities as a Mother
- Knowing your roles and responsibilities will enhance good parenting:
- When responsibilities are properly shared, the family will grow:
- Taking up your roles and responsibilities promote peace and happiness in the family:
- Knowing your roles and responsibilities leads to appreciation:
- Responsible parents would likely raise responsible children:
Below are the Roles and Responsibilities of a Mother in the Family
1. A Mother is the Child Bearer of the Family:
2. Mothers are the family nurses and caregivers:Women are naturally graced with care and concern as a nurse would to her patients. As a mother, you are the nurse of that family and the caregiver.
You are not only caring for your children but every member of the family sees you are the one whose arm they can lay on when they are in need of soft touch and comfort.
Caring here is not literally only about holding them in your arms, of course, some family members are heavier than you can carry, it is about showing them more concern, noticing changes in their lives and listening to them over other members of the family, even when it does not worth it.
3. Mothers and fathers are partners in child raising:It is the duty of a mother to work together with the father as partners in seeking for a better way to train up their children.
4. Mum is the Best Cooks and in charge of food:That sounds weird, right? That is how the society makes you feel. But cooking is one of the traditional roles of the mother while the father is charged with provision. Even most children take pride in their mothers when it come to the kitchen.
We can’t blame individuals or culture for this. Nature has already made you the one that feeds others directly from the womb during breastfeeding. Already, most children are used to you being the one to feed them. While others can cook, it is your responsibility to dish out food and serve your family or appoint someone that responsibility.
Children can also take this role when they grow up but it is important to note that most children would cheat on themselves or feel marginalized over certain responsibilities sharing. Meanwhile, when your children are still young, you have that responsibility no matter who is there to bail you out.
5. A mother can act in the absence of a father figure:It is your responsibility to act asor play the role of a father when there is none. It is not going to be an easy task but taking that role may be the only option you have or the best from other options.
At times you may choose to outsource that fatherhood responsibility but this has to be handled in a sensitive manner because only a few people can take custody of children that are not theirs.
6. Mothers are the easiest point of contact or the ‘middlemen of the family’:For some reasons, most family members, children find it easier to communicate their grievances to the mother over the father. This is much rampant, especially in polygamous homes where the father is
much more engaged with several responsibilities. While they might go to the father for basic needs, most of your children expect that you will respond to those aspects of need the father would not give them ears.